Six Lessons Every Single Person Should Know

by Ms Erin Meanley

When you’ve been single for a while and start to feel discouraged that you might never meet someone, it’s easy to get down. These six reminders can help you look on the bright side of things. By I’m sensing a lot of pain out there these days … I put together a few things I’ve learned in my 30 years as a usually-single person that might be worth sharing. This is for my own sake, too — I have to remind myself to practice them. Here they are, in no particular order:

Learn to live with uncertainty. Man, I wish I could plan and control everything that happens in my life. But hey, there are far worse things than not knowing your romantic future. Imagine being diagnosed with breast cancer, treating it, and beating it … but still wondering at every next mammogram if the cancer will have come back. That’s living with uncertainty. People do it every day.

Be patient. Everything takes longer than we expect — getting that next job or promotion, waiting for a guy to commit, or finding a house or roommate or soulmate. Did I ever think I’d be single in 2009? NEVER. But the reason I’m not walking around in shock about it is because of another lesson I’ve learned — namely, that life always surprises you.

Practice a positive attitude. I have many friends who are blessed with loving husbands, children, dogs, luxury cars … even a swimming pool out back. They appear to have it all. But I cannot resent my friends their happiness. That’s so lame. Things will work out for me! They will.

Realize that life is seriously beautiful. Even though George Clooney isn’t sitting on your couch and proposing marriage (yet), you have other beautiful, moving things (e.g. the Beatles, a blue sky, good literature). Whenever I take the time to notice something … bellisimo —well, I won’t get all religious on you, but if you actually thank God or Buddha or throw it out to the universe, it reminds you there are bigger things than poor old you and your loneliness (thank goodness for that!).

Stay in the present. You know when you’re singing by yourself, and you’re actively recalling the lyrics and swaying, and then you get down on your knees and really belt out that money note? Well, that’s living in the moment. Sing, write, dance — do anything engaging. Just get in the zone as often as possible. The zone will save you.

Laugh at yourself. This is a must. Also laugh at other people or characters. Hence, I recommend watching Bridget Jones.

To conclude, we hope we can think and expect of something that more happier in our daily life. Today, think of today, and to enjoy for today. Tomorrow will come with the incertainties that we could not stop by whatever means, except by Allah's consent.